Most people from dysfunctional homes have gone on to complain about how traumatic it was growing such situations. Some have seeked therapeutic help from professionals. Others, albeit unorthodox, have chosen various healing paths.
They have now healed and moving forward with the intention to right the wrong, and end the dysfunctional cycle. Our team recently became curious about how well these people function in a relationship. Do they make the best partners?
We asked five people “do you think people who have healed from dysfunctional homes make the best partners?” Here’s what they had to say;
Eniola- 26, Ibadan
“I don’t think so. This is from my perspective however.
I think people from dysfunctional homes get lost in the phobia for brokeness and then, they deliberately avoid co-habitations. They literally begin with the end in view. That’s a bad way to partner with anyone.”
Austin- 31, Lagos
“I don’t think so
It’s one thing to heal from a dysfunctional home, it’s one thing to be a great partner. They’re not mutually exclusive.
They can be aware of the problem and what to do and how to avoid those problems but then people who never experienced a dysfunctional home don’t make the best partners.
So no, I don’t think they make the best partners even after healing.
It totally depends on their person.”
Mary- 24, London
“I believe people from dysfunctional homes can actually make the best partners only if they put in the work. By ‘work’ I mean pray, and work hard to be better. Again, choice of partner matters a lot. This is because an understanding partner would help you overcome your struggles. They could encourage you to go for therapy which would help.
- prayer is very important.
- working towards being better and having a positive mindset.
- Geting a good and understanding partner.”
Wumi- 27, Lagos
“First, I don’t believe people completely heal from trauma. That being said, I think people from dysfunctional homes who have made conscious decisions to seek therapy and very much healed make good partners. Not necessarily the best.
My reason being that, in trying to prevent a chaotic home or another dysfunctional home, they may end up breeding an unhealthy relationship.
Also, many of their decisions could stem from their experience as a product of a dysfunctional home. Which not even be the best decision at the time.
Conclusively, I think people from healthy home, raised by healthy parents, and made into healthy individuals make the best partners.”
Paul- 40, Imo
“They can. Depends on the individual and the level of healing and personal decisions not to build a home like theirs.
Else, they don’t make the best partners oooo”
Disclaimer: This article is strictly categorised under ‘opinions’. It is not backed by any referenced research or fact. Finally, the opinions expressed do not reflect the overall opinion of The Urbane Magazine.